Breaking the Ice…

Ever eye someone while standing in a long line only to watch your potential love walk away?  Seizing this moment is the ultimate singles challenge but can be the most exciting.  When you are in a situation like waiting in line or waiting to order a drink, or anywhere where you are in close proximity to someone you want to meet, here are some tips to begin the flirting process.


Smile and go for eye contact.  Then make a comment about the shared situation.  Keep it positive like “certainly seems to be a popular spot tonight”.  A smile says you are friendly and positive, and it inspires a response. Once you have broken the ice with a smile and eye contact you have the “in” to begin.


Wanna mint? Another idea is to light his/her cigarette, offer a mint (gum), offer to carry a drink or anything that involves mutual participation. People are disarmed and charmed by generosity. It is also a great start when there is something you are both involved in even for a few seconds.


Show interest in what the person is buying, ordering or doing at the time.  (“I was thinking of ordering that too. Is that good?”) Asking opinions is flattering and really opens up the other person.


Be aware of over doing compliments or being too close too soon.  Getting too complimentary or too close too soon is just creepy.  You’ll be close soon enough if you take your time and let the flirt progress naturally.


Make the move to connect.  If you feel some mutual attraction and your person of interest is lingering just a bit, take the plunge and ask to have coffee, lunch, exchange email addresses or cell numbers
-Counselor Evelynn

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So you're at a party, a bar, a coffeehouse or wherever and you see someone who catches your eyes. What do you do? Would you just stand in your spot staring, praying and hoping he/she will notice you and hopefully they will like what they see and approach you? Maybe that's why you're still single, buddy.

Of course, it can be nerve-wracking approaching somebody. It all comes down to fear of rejection. But somebody got to do it, right? Now gather up your confidence and go for it. Sure, the risk of them not being available or not finding you worthy of a conversation is high but the chance of you hitting the dating jackpot is also much higher than winning the lottery. Be confident, it's not very attractive if you stumble for words but be careful not to appear cocky. Start with simple ice-breaking lines like "Hi. Having a good time?" or anything that doesn't seem out of place. You want to avoid being too aggressive or come on too strong. Having a sense of humor helps a whole lot because you don't want to bore them. The first few lines of the conversation is the 'make or break' period, after that if they still appear to be interested in having a conversation then you basically make it pass the first step so keep the conversation casual and get to know them. And if they start looking away or even yawning, don't fool yourself that they're still interested. Move on and don't push it further. As the old saying goes, there are plenty of fishes in the sea.

I know how most women would rather not make the first move but here's a secret. Men like being approached. It doesn't just boost their ego but also makes things a lot easier because they might not have the nerve to approach you themselves. So be a little aggressive and take control!

“Flirting is a promise of sexual intercourse without a guarantee.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being“

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Flirting is the first step towards intimacy.  It cannot be left to chance.  Whether it is by accident, a natural skill, or a conscious strategy, it is a necessary initial activity that both men and women engage in.  It consists of body language, conversation and brief initial physical contact.  It can be a mutual dance of two people or a singular approach by one towards another.  Here are some tips, strategies and approaches to flirting.  Try them next time you have the opportunity and GOOD LUCK!