One simple approach for men is to just reverse the whole situation. Charm your way to her and let her make the first move in the flirt dance. If there is one traditional and reliable method to do that will be the magic of eye contact. Making eye contact, as simple as it is, can be a little tricky. The eyes can communicate a thousand words in those precious seconds you met her eyes. Make sure you have the right look in your eyes. How do you know when you've achieved the correct look? What's in your mind is basically what would be projected in your eyes. So if you were thinking to go get a girl and get her to bed, that tinge of lust would be caught in your eye. W omen usually seek eye contact to catch a glimpse of the essence of the male. What is he thinking rather than projecting what she is thinking. Men need to be aware of that and be in control of their thoughts when attempting eye contact.
Now, what happens if you use this knowledge to make it easier for a woman to approach you? Here are some ideas for men to encourage women to flirt with them...
Why does a man take it for granted that a girl who flirts with him wants him to kiss her - when, nine times out of ten, she only wants him to want to kiss her? ~Helen Rowland
getting her to make the first move
Try finding someone roughly as attractive as you. That way, there’s a better chance you’ll have initial success. A few things to keep in mind, though: women tend to underestimate their looks, while men tend to overestimate their looks, because there are “less rigid” rules for men’s attractiveness. We all have made observations of “odd” couples where we wonder what the attraction is between a couple. Are good looks all there is to flirting? No, rather both men and women must be aware that beyond looks, confidence and charm can outweigh any perceived physical disadvantages.
The first thing to remember in flirting is that it is not about you. It’s showing the other person you’re attracted to them. Think about it from your own experience. When you were told a particular person liked you, didn’t your impression of that person grow as well? Flirting is all about language. But here’s the catch: your spoken language isn’t nearly as important as your body language. Studies have shown that people’s “initial impression of you is based 55% on your appearance and body-language, 35% on your style of speaking and only 10% on what you actually say.”
Flirting and Romance
A simple guide to impressing your "potential"