Conversations can be broken down into three parts.

The first part is small talk. Small talk is dictated by social rules and includes polite greetings, inquiries about the thoughts of others, etc. This is where you find out enough about the other person to continue into more in-depth subjects.  It is also where we find out if we want to continue flirting with this person or moving on.

Stage two is the end of the small talk and moving on to the purpose of the conversation such as moving beyond flirting, the sharing of opinions, personal views and the intentions of the other. Without the ability to express yourself efficiently, the conversation can easily slip back into small talk, lessening the chances of accomplishing the move beyond idle flirting.

The third part of a conversation is where the various ideas and views expressed can be merged into a satisfying end for all parties involved in the conversation. The art of conversation is a learned skill that is common among successful, flirters. If you are unable to effectively express yourself in any situation, you will likely find that you do not attract the attention and command the attention you want from your intended flirt partner. People who talk freely and easily with others usually find more personal fulfillment than those who are introverted and silent.

You will notice a dramatic difference in the way other people perceive you if you demonstrate self-confidence and project a friendly, informed image.

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Always say what you think (within situational reason), not what you think others want you to say. Especially in a flirting setting, learning to express your views and ideas in a positive, non-threatening manner will invite reactions and responses. Effective communicators always say what they are thinking and express their ideas freely. Having the courage to speak your mind as well as listening openly to the views and ideas of others is a sure way to earn the interest of all those you encounter.

Listen carefully to what others are saying. People often interpret things said by others in a way that clouds their ability to hear what people are really intending to say. By giving your full attention to the person you are flirting with, you can hear what they intend for you to hear instead of what you want to hear. The art of conversation includes the ability to listen to others as well as the ability to speak effectively.

Assume that a speaker is saying exactly what they mean to say. Even if it seems unclear, try to find meaning and understanding to the words they are saying and give them the respect of hearing what they want you to hear. If you need clarification you can ask follow up questions.  This also shows engagement and serious interest. In any conversation, the ability to give respect is just as important as receiving it. The art of conversation is a give and take between parties, not one speaker and one listener.

Conversation Basics
By Counselor Evelynn

The art of conversation is a skill mastered by all successful people and this includes those who are good at flirting. Good conversation skills promote an image of self-confidence, intelligence, and wittiness. People who speak effortlessly and effectively with others are generally well liked and highly successful. Flirting incorporates good conversation basics. Here are the basics to help you enhance your conversational skills and boost your flirting efforts.

Courage and willingness to just go for it, whether it is a conversation or a spontaneous trip or trying new things that are scary - it is a really attractive quality.
-Alanis Morissette

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